To be honest, I am not the neatest bird in the nest, and never have been. Speaking of nests, I remember the pile of clothes that my sister and I would gather, like little fledglings, in the middle of our room, when it came time to do the laundry. I felt there was something warm and soft in all of the shirts and pants and underwear and socks that had kept our bodies covered and dry. Not to say that we were raised as street urchins, although our middle-class upbringing in America's most exclusive and expensive summer resort might have given us that slanted impression.
I've nailed cleanliness, for sure, but organization is somewhat of a foreign country that still won't give me the visa, after many, many attempted visits. What I had perhaps forgotten was that sharing a room with someone who is very neat would be challenging, and therefore essentially a learning curve. Or as my therapist in London used to say, an 'AFGO', 'another f**king growth opportunity'.
Here I was, 'appena arrivata' (just arrived), unpacking the carefully folded clothes that my friend Betsy packed into my suitcase ... I know, helpless in this department, and thank God for such good friends. Sure, I put on a good show, with neat corners of ironed shirts and freshly laundered bras folded into the cups, straps tucked in between. I knew in my heart of hearts that the piles I was making in the two drawers I was allotted would last two weeks at best, until the samsara of creation and destruction would mean me backtracking every weekend to put the Humpty-Dumpty-ness back together again. Never mind, I had more important things on my mind, like the first day of school ...
Waking up at 730am when in my body it was still 2 or 3 in the morning was jarring at best. I was somewhere in the mid-Atlantic, closer to the US and certainly not on Italian time. A strong espresso at the cafe downstairs bought me some time, and to my surprise the woman serving me the brew was Brazilian. Hallelujah! A bit of 'home away from home', as I lived in Rio de Janeiro for most of last year, and was dying to continue speaking twangy Brazilian Portuguese. If all went pear-shaped, I thought, at least I'd have a language secret enough to complain in.
My roommate Lisa and I walked into the courtyard of the Palazzo Ducale, one of the former summer palaces of the Medici family and a gorgeous, cream-colored 17th century building. We found Antonio, Giuseppe and Alessandro waiting outside the school's offices. I instantly felt my foreignness creeping in, and remained silent so as not to betray my identity before I absolutely had to. Silly, I know, but just for a few moments I wanted to be anonymous, Italian like them, or at least not a 'straniera', or literally, a 'stranger'. They chatted amongst themselves about their backgrounds, and I came to learn that many of us were here for a life change. Already the energy of that forward movement into the unknown felt good. I was in the right place, receiving soft and gentle nudges from the universe and God above.
In between one informal presentation and another, the school's coordinator Giulia came outside to greet us. She and I had gotten acquainted by phone in the past six months, and to my surprise she was young, spritely and informal. To think that we had used the polite grammar form of 'Lei' all this time, and were more or less the same age ... Giulia ushered us into the building and off to a room with coffee number two. Caffeine racing through my veins, I felt more ready to mount a horse than sit in a classroom for eight hours. At this point there were just two students missing, a Japanese girl named Junko who was still awaiting her visa, and Matthias, a German-Italian bilingual speaker from Alto Adige, Italy's northernmost province.
Matthias waltzed in like a Seinfeld character, hair purposely unkempt and then gelled, trendy running trainers, the kind you'd never run in, and a hipster fabric belt, circa early noughties. He had spunk and mischief written all over his face, and I knew that at the very least we would have a few laughs as a class, a bit of comic relief when the wine-going got tough.
To round out the group was Lorenzo, like my other roommates straight out of high school. His gravely accent from Arezzo, southern to my ears or rather a mix of Tuscan and Roman intonation, made me feel right at home. He was strikingly 'terra-terra', down to earth, and uncomplicated. I could almost feel the fresh air coming in through the windowsill when he spoke, with zero pretension and absolute honesty.
The real shock of the morning, which of course we were all expecting and had been duly warned, was the handing out of military uniforms. Stripped of our identity, we would be wearing either all-black with name tags or penguin suits in the form of white shirt, black jacket and black pants. To be fair, our school clothes would get us into the proper sommelier habit of looking presentable and discreet, and ironing on a daily basis. Which of course has always been my dream in life.
Preened of our individuality, we were then asked to present ourselves in front of the entire faculty of the school. Gulp. My heart was pounding so hard in my chest I was sure they could hear it in the front row. Even thought my Italian is nearly perfect, I was conscious of not wanting to make even the slightest grammatical mistake.